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The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola is a hands-on jealousy workbook for people in polyamorous, open or otherwise non-monogamous relationships. Rather than arguing for or against open relationships, it assumes you've already chosen one and gives you practical exercises for the moments when jealousy shows up anyway.
Labriola is a counsellor and nurse who works with polyamorous singles, couples and larger groups, and she has spent many years helping clients understand and manage jealousy. The book gathers the techniques and exercises she developed in that work, together with tips and insights from other educators and writers in the polyamory community.
The publisher describes the techniques as simple enough to reach for in the middle of an intense jealousy crisis. They're even more useful if you work through them ahead of time, so the skills are already familiar when a hard moment arrives. That makes it a book to read with a pen in hand, not one to skim once and shelve. Many readers work through it alongside a partner, comparing notes on what sets each of them off.
It fits people who are opening up an existing relationship and want structure for the conversations ahead, people who have been non-monogamous for a while and keep hitting the same snag, and partners or metamours who want to understand each other's reactions. It's not a guide to whether to open a relationship, and it isn't a substitute for professional support if a situation feels unsafe or overwhelming.
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Helpful answers about Jealousy Workbook: Exercises & Insights for Managing Open Relationships – Kathy Labriola.
It's written for open and non-monogamous relationships, and the examples reflect that. Monogamous readers may find some exercises useful, but the framing assumes more than one partner is involved somewhere, so it fits most naturally if that's your situation or the one you're moving towards.
No. Because the exercises are meant to be usable in a crisis, you can go straight to the section that fits what's happening. Working through it front to back before problems arise gives you a fuller toolkit, though.
Yes, and many do. Try each doing an exercise separately, then comparing answers over a calm coffee rather than in the middle of a disagreement. Seeing each other's triggers written down often makes them easier to talk about.
It's built around exercises, and the publisher calls it a workbook, but the large-format paperback isn't described as a fill-in journal. A separate notebook keeps your answers private and lets you reuse the exercises later.
Other editions exist, but what we sell is the Greenery Press paperback. Print suits a workbook well, since it's easy to flip back to an exercise you've marked.
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