Strap-Ons & Strap-On Kits Canada

A strap-on is a dildo worn in a harness, so the wearer can use it hands-free on a partner. People of every gender and pairing use them: lesbian and queer couples, straight couples trying pegging, and anyone who wants to experience penetration from the other side. You can buy the harness and dildo together as a kit, or separately so you can match a harness to toys you already own.

Your first strap-on: start with a kit

A kit takes the guesswork out of fit, because the dildo is already sized to the harness ring. Good starting points include the b-Vibe Beginner Strap-On Set with a 5-inch silicone dildo, the Sportsheets New Comers Kit and the Blush SX For You Kit. For a first time, a slimmer, smooth dildo in the 5 to 6 inch range is easier for the receiver than something long or heavily textured.

Strap-ons for pegging

Pegging kits pair a harness with a slimmer, curved dildo that's easier to take anally. The ROMP Piccolo Pegging Kit is a gentle place to start, the Sportsheets Saffron Pegging Kit comes with an adjustable harness, and the b-Vibe Vibrating Curved Strap-On Kit adds vibration. Use a thick anal lube, go slowly, and let the receiving partner set the pace.

Strapless strap-ons

A strapless strap-on has a short bulb that the wearer holds internally, so there's no harness at all and the wearer feels movement too. The Strap-On-Me Vibrating Bendable Strap-On comes in several sizes, and the XR Mighty Rider and Temptasia Luna are other options. They take some practice to keep in place, so many people start with a harness. See all strapless strap-ons.

Choosing a harness

Harness styles differ mainly in how they spread pressure. Jock and brief styles, like the Get Lucky boxer harness, spread it across the hips and stay comfortable for longer. Two-strap designs adjust more precisely but concentrate pressure where the straps sit. Thigh harnesses like the Sportsheets Thigh Strap On put the dildo somewhere other than the pelvis, and lingerie harnesses from Strap-On-Me and Sportsheets look like underwear first.

Two measurements decide whether a harness works: the waist or hip range, and the O-ring diameter. A ring that's too small won't seat the dildo; too large and it won't hold. Many harnesses include interchangeable rings for exactly this reason. Our strap-on harness guide explains how to measure for both.

Dildos and care

Any dildo with a flared base can go in an O-ring harness; browse harness-compatible dildos or double-ended dildos if both partners want to feel it. Pair silicone dildos with water-based lube, wash the dildo after every use, and hand-wash fabric harnesses so the straps keep their stretch. Harnesses on their own are in our harness collection, and Strap-On-Me has its own page.