Dame Massage Oil Candle

The Dame Massage Oil Candle in Wild Lust works simply: you light it, let the top melt into a warm pool of oil, then blow it out and pour that oil straight onto skin. Dame's Wild Lust scent blends lime leaves, ambrette and white peach, which gives you something bright and a little musky rather than sugary. It suits couples who like a bit of ritual before touch, and anyone who wants their massage oil and their bedside candle to be the same thing.

How a massage oil candle turns into warm oil

Light the wick and give it about 20 minutes, until the melted layer has spread evenly across the surface. Blow the flame out, wait a moment, then use the spout to pour a small line of oil onto your palm or onto your partner's back. Dame describes the blend as melting just above body temperature, so the oil feels warm rather than hot. You can also dip your fingertips in and scoop it out if you prefer more control.

Always test a drop on the inside of your wrist before pouring onto someone else, and never pour while the wick is still lit. If the candle has been burning for a long time, check the glass before picking it up, since the vessel itself can get warm.

What's in the wax

The base is a blend of soybean wax, sunflower seed wax and beeswax, softened with coconut, sweet almond, olive, jojoba, grape seed and avocado oils, plus shea butter and vitamin E. Dame's ingredient list also includes kava kava root extract and melatonin. Because it contains beeswax, it isn't a vegan product, and because it contains sweet almond oil, anyone with a nut allergy should skip it. If your skin is reactive, patch-test a small area on your forearm and wait a day before using it all over.

How Wild Lust compares with the other scents

Dame makes this candle in three scents. Wild Lust is the fresh, fruity one, thanks to the lime and peach. Soft Touch and Melt Together use the same base, so the texture and melt behave the same; only the fragrance changes. If you're buying for someone whose taste you don't know, a citrus-leaning scent like this one is often a safe pick.

Using it well

Warm the room first and lay down an old towel, since any oil can mark sheets. Pour less than you think you need; a little goes a long way once it is spread with flat palms. Long strokes up either side of the spine, slow circles across the shoulders and kneading along the calves all work well. It's an external massage oil, not a personal lubricant, so keep it away from genitals and don't use it with latex condoms. Switch to a separate lube if things move in that direction.

Care and storage

Trim the wick before each burn, and let the whole surface melt every time so the candle doesn't tunnel down the centre. Put the lid back on once it has cooled and keep it somewhere cool and dark. Leftover oil on skin can be massaged in or wiped off with a warm, damp cloth.

Specifications

• Brand: Dame, Massage Oil Candle
• Scent: Wild Lust (lime leaves, ambrette, white peach)
• Size: 5 oz candle in a glass vessel with a pouring spout
• Wax: soybean, sunflower seed and beeswax blend
• Oils and butters: coconut, sweet almond, olive, jojoba, grape seed, avocado, shea butter, vitamin E
• Also listed: kava kava root extract, melatonin
• Other scents: Soft Touch, Melt Together

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