Strap On Me Diva Lingerie Harness – Night Blue, Large

The Strap-On-Me Diva is a strap on harness made to look and feel like lingerie: lace across the hips, adjustable suspenders, a cinching elastic waistband and a subtle slit at the back. Up front, a discreet, stretchy silicone ring holds a dildo in place. This listing is the Night Blue in size Large, for wearers who want a harness they'll feel good in, as much as one that works.

Lingerie first, harness second

Most harnesses are made of straps and buckles. The Diva is built like a pair of high-waisted lace panties with garter-style suspenders, so it looks like lingerie whether or not a dildo is attached. The fabric is 70% microfibre and 30% lace with a second-skin fit that moves with you. The elastic waistband sits at the natural waist and cinches it in, and the adjustable suspenders let you fine-tune how it sits on your hips. At the back, a small slit adds a little reveal.

The silicone ring and dildo fit

The ring at the front is stretchy silicone, which means it grips a range of shaft widths and is gentler on the dildo than a metal O-ring. To fit a dildo, push the shaft through from the inside until the base sits flat behind the ring. You'll need a dildo with a flared base or suction cup; straight or tapered bases will slip through. Because the ring stretches, mid-size dildos with a clear flange tend to sit most securely. Very heavy or very long toys can droop in any panty-style harness, so a moderate size works better here. A dildo with a slight upward curve also helps it point where you want during thrusting, rather than straight down. If you plan to use it for anal play, make sure the toy is labelled for anal use and has a wide base.

Using the Diva for pegging

The soft fabric and snug fit make the Diva a good choice for pegging, where comfort over a longer session matters. Fit the dildo, pull the harness on like underwear, then adjust the suspenders until the base sits firmly over your pubic bone. Plenty of lube on the dildo, slow strokes and letting your partner set the pace are the keys to a good first time. If you want to add stimulation for the wearer, a small bullet can be tucked behind the dildo base.

Choosing your size

The Diva comes in five sizes, S to XXL. This is the Large. Strap-On-Me doesn't give measurements in this description, so compare your waist and hip measurements with the brand's size chart, and choose the size you'd wear in regular underwear. The elastic waist has some give, but a harness that's too loose will let the dildo wobble.

Care

The Diva is machine-washable. Remove the dildo first, put the harness in a lingerie bag, and wash it on a gentle cycle. Hang it to dry rather than tumble drying, which helps the lace and elastic last. Wash the silicone ring area by hand if lube has collected around it.

Specifications

• Brand: Strap-On-Me, Diva
• Type: lingerie-style strap-on harness
• Material: 70% microfibre, 30% lace; stretchy silicone ring
• Features: adjustable suspenders, elastic waistband, back slit
• Sizes: S, M, L, XL, XXL
• Care: machine-washable
• Colour: night blue; size: Large

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