Strap-On-Me Diva Lingerie Strap-On Harness – Night Blue, Medium

The Strap-On-Me Diva is a strap on harness disguised as lingerie: lace-trimmed, second-skin panties with suspenders, a cinching waistband and a discreet silicone ring at the front for a dildo. This Night Blue version in Medium has a deep, moody colour that looks good with or without a toy attached. It suits people who want a strap-on that feels sexy to wear, and couples trying pegging or strap-on play for the first time.

Lingerie first, harness second

Many people put off trying a strap-on because traditional harnesses look technical: webbing, buckles, D-rings. The Diva skips all that. It's a pair of lace-trimmed panties made from soft microfibre with a second-skin fit, a wide elastic waistband that cinches at the waist, and adjustable suspender straps for stockings. At the back there's a subtle slit that shows a little skin. At the front, sewn discreetly into the fabric, is a stretchy silicone ring that holds a dildo. With nothing attached, it simply looks and wears like a set of lingerie, so you can put it on early in the evening and add the toy later.

Choosing a dildo for the Diva

The ring holds any dildo with a flared base that's wider than the ring, and Strap-On-Me lists the Diva as dildo compatible. Push the shaft through from the inside of the panties so the base sits behind the ring, against your body. Because the ring is silicone and stretches, it grips a range of shaft widths, but the listing doesn't give a ring diameter, so a dildo with a clearly defined, flat base gives the most stable hold. Suction cup bases work well. For first sessions, a smaller, smooth dildo is easier for both partners to control. Our harness-compatible dildos are a good place to look.

Using it for pegging

Strap-On-Me pitches the Diva for pegging, and the soft panty shape helps here: it sits close to the pubic bone, so the dildo moves with your hips rather than flopping on loose straps. Start with plenty of lube on the dildo and your partner, let them set the pace at first, and try positions where they can move back onto you, such as kneeling on all fours or lying on their side. Talk throughout. A panty-style harness is softer than a strap harness, so for very energetic thrusting with a heavy dildo it may shift more; a lighter toy suits it better.

Sizing and care

The Diva comes in five sizes, from S to XXL, and this one is Medium. The listing doesn't publish a measurement chart, so choose the size you'd normally buy in underwear or lingerie, sizing up if you're between sizes or wearing a heavier dildo. The fabric is 70% microfibre and 30% lace. It's machine washable: remove the dildo, fasten any hooks, pop it in a lingerie bag and wash on a gentle, cool cycle. Hang it to dry rather than tumble-drying, which helps the lace and elastic last.

Specifications

• Brand: Strap-On-Me, Diva lingerie harness
• Type: panty-style strap-on harness with front silicone ring
• Materials: 70% microfibre, 30% lace; silicone ring
• Features: elastic waistband, adjustable suspenders, back slit
• Compatibility: dildos with a flared base
• Care: machine washable
• Sizes available: S, M, L, XL, XXL
• Colour and size: Night Blue, Medium. Also made in black, red and chocolate

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