Strap-On-Me Harness Lingerie Diva Strap-On Harness – Night Blue XL

The Strap-On-Me Harness Lingerie Diva in Night Blue, size XL, is a strap on harness that looks like a pair of lace lingerie panties. A soft lace front, a stretchy waistband and adjustable suspenders give it a pretty, put-together look, and hidden at the front is a stretchy silicone ring that holds a dildo. It suits people who want strap-on sex, pegging included, without the look of a leather or nylon rig.

Lingerie first, harness second

Most harnesses are built from straps and buckles. The Diva starts as lingerie. It's 70% microfibre and 30% lace, with a second-skin fit that moves with you. The lace sits over the hips, the elastic waistband cinches the waist, and the adjustable suspenders frame the thighs, so you can wear it with stockings for a full lingerie look. At the back, a small slit gives a subtle peek. When you're not using a dildo, it simply reads as underwear.

Fitting a dildo in the silicone ring

The front panel holds a discreet silicone ring that stretches around the base of a dildo. Push the dildo through from the inside so its flared base sits behind the ring, against your body. Dildos with a clear, wide flange or balls hold most securely; a smooth base without a flange may slip out. Because the ring stretches, it fits a range of shaft widths, but Strap-On-Me doesn't list its exact diameter, so pick a harness-compatible dildo of a medium width to start.

Pegging and strap-on sex in the Diva

The elastic waistband and snug panty shape keep the ring close to the pubic bone, which gives the wearer better control than looser strap styles. For pegging, start with a smaller, tapered dildo and plenty of lube, and let the receiving partner set the pace. Hip thrusts move the dildo more steadily if you pull the waistband up firmly before you begin. Lace and microfibre won't hold a very heavy dildo as rigidly as a leather harness, so medium sizes and weights work better than large, heavy ones.

Choosing your size

The Diva comes in five sizes, S to XXL; this listing is the XL. Since the fit depends on the waistband and the stretch of the fabric, choose your usual lingerie size. If you're between sizes, size up for comfort, because a too-tight band rolls down when you move.

Washing and care

Remove the dildo and wash the Diva in the machine on a gentle, cool cycle, ideally in a mesh lingerie bag to protect the lace. Let it air-dry flat rather than tumble-drying. Wash the dildo separately according to its own material. Store the Diva folded in a drawer or lingerie bag, away from sharp hooks or Velcro that could snag the lace.

Two practical tips for the first time. Put the harness on before you get too aroused, so you can adjust the suspenders and check the dildo is sitting straight. And keep a towel nearby: lube on lace is easy to wash out, but it's nicer not to have to stop mid-session.

Specifications

• Brand: Strap-On-Me, Harness Lingerie Diva
• Type: lingerie-style strap-on harness with stretchy silicone front ring
• Material: 70% microfibre, 30% lace
• Features: elastic waistband, adjustable suspenders, back slit
• Size: XL (also S, M, L, XXL)
• Care: machine-washable
• Colour: Night Blue. Also in black, red and chocolate

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