Strap-on-me Desirous Leatherette Strap-On Harness – One Size

The Strap-on-me Desirous is a redesigned leatherette strap on harness with a bare-back design, so the base of the dildo rests directly against the wearer's skin. It has a padded back belt, adjustable straps front and back, and three removable silicone O-rings that snap in and out to fit different dildos. One adjustable size covers XS to XXL, which suits couples who share a harness, and anyone wanting a comfortable everyday strap-on for pegging or power play.

A bare-back strap on harness

Many harnesses put a stiff panel between the dildo base and the wearer. The Desirous doesn't. Its bare-back design means the base of the dildo sits directly on your skin, held in place by the O-ring and straps. That gives a closer, more connected feel, especially for wearers who enjoy feeling every thrust, and it keeps the front of the harness slim and low-profile. A padded belt at the back spreads pressure so it stays comfortable through longer sessions.

Three snap-in O-rings

The harness comes with three silicone rings: 4.5 cm, 5.5 cm and 6.5 cm across (about 1.8, 2.2 and 2.6 inches). They attach with snap buttons, so you can swap them in seconds. Pick the ring that's just snug around the shaft above the base, so the dildo sits upright without wobbling. A ring that's too large lets the toy droop; too small and it won't seat. Silicone rings are also gentler on soft dildos than metal ones.

Which dildos fit

Strap-on-me says the Desirous is compatible with all its own dildos, including the Multi Orgasm Dildo. It will also take most other dildos with a flared base wider than the ring you choose. Dildos with balls or suction cups can work too, but flat, flared bases sit flattest against the body. For pegging beginners, a slim, slightly curved dildo is the gentlest start.

Sizing and fit

It's one adjustable size, from XS to XXL: international XS–XXL, French 34–44, US 2–12 and UK 4–16, for hips from 88 to 137 cm (34 to 54 inches). Adjust the front and back straps so the harness sits snugly on the hips with the dildo positioned where you want it, usually just above the pubic bone. A snug fit gives you control; a loose harness lets the dildo flop and is harder to guide. Walk around in it for a minute before you start.

Care and storage

The harness is faux leather (mostly polyurethane), so it shouldn't go in the washing machine. Wipe the whole surface with a soft, slightly damp cloth after use. For lube or other residue, use warm, soapy water, then wipe off the excess moisture and let it air-dry. Snap the rings out and wash them separately with soap and water. A cotton storage pouch is included, which keeps the harness and rings together and dust-free.

Specifications

• Brand: Strap-on-me, Desirous (new design)
• Type: bare-back strap-on harness with padded back belt
• Materials: 95% polyurethane, 2% nitrile, 2% iron, 0.5% polyester, 0.5% elastane; silicone rings
• Size: one size adjustable XS–XXL (hips 88–137 cm / 34–54 in)
• Rings: 3 removable, snap-on: 4.5 cm / 5.5 cm / 6.5 cm (1.8 / 2.2 / 2.6 in)
• Compatibility: all Strap-on-me dildos
• Includes: cotton storage pouch

See the full Strap-on-me range, find a dildo in our harness-compatible dildos, or browse all strap-on harnesses.